Max’s nursery induction

I meant to write this post the other day but I’ve had quite a stressful week so I’ve only just got round to it. My bad!

Max had his 2 induction days with nursery this week. The first one I stayed with him and we had a look round together, and the second one I went into another room where he couldn’t see me to see how he got on. I was a bit worried as I’ve previously mentioned he gets separation anxiety but he was fine! I think he’s definitely ready to start spending more time with other children and get a bit more independence. The staff commented on how clever he was and said he talks more than some of the older children 😂 obviously an extrovert like his mum 😉 I’m really pleased with the nursery choice as well. It’s a lovely environment, all the children have a diary where the staff write down what they have done each day which I like. His first day is on the 7th! I’ll miss him a lot but I’m happy as well, he’ll love it.

In other news, I had an interview today for some interesting work that I’m hopefully going to start soon. I won’t put too much about it as it’s working with vulnerable people but I’m really excited about that! I also booked my flights to Poland for January. Got them for £45, bargain. Less than 5 months to go now!

I can relax now and enjoy the weekend. My birthday is on Monday so I’m planning on drinking a lot and enjoying myself. 😊


Why I have decided to go abroad for surgery

Today I got my final confirmation of the date for my cosmetic surgery. I’ve been excitedly telling everyone I know because I can’t wait! Quite a few people have asked me what company I’m going with. When I say I’m getting it done in Poland the reactions have been pretty strong. “Are you mad?”

No, I’m not mad. If I’m honest, this time last year I’d have had that reaction too. I always said I’d NEVER get surgery abroad. Watching programmes like Botched Up Bodies, newspaper articles about body parts exploding after dodgy surgery and hearing about women being injected with CEMENT convinced me even more that surgery on home soil was the way to go. Risking my health just to save a bit of cash didn’t seem worth it.

I’ve wanted a boob job for years, even more so after my son was born. It was only in January this year that I decided I was 100% going for it. Fortunately I’m in a position where I can save money rather than have to take out a loan or payment plan. I worked out it would take me about a year to save what I would need.

Over the last 8 months I’ve done plenty of research. I was originally going to go with Harley Street private clinic in London, but then changed my mind to MYA after seeing pictures of their work. Both companies charged around £5000 for what I wanted.

I had two consultations where we discussed what I wanted, what would be best for my lifestyle, etc. I just had to wait until I got the cash together.

I spent a lot of time looking at photos of other women who’d had boob jobs to see what the results looked like. In June I came across a past Big Brother winner on Twitter who had recently had hers done. I thought they looked really good and asked her where she went. She gave me the twitter link for Europe Surgery and couldn’t speak highly enough of them.

I spoke online with the patient coordinator who was lovely and gave me all the information I needed. I researched the company and after I was satisfied with its track record I decided to go with them instead.

Deciding to get surgery isn’t something you should do lightly. I might joke about it but the truth is I genuinely think it will make my life better. I hate not being able to wear nice clothes because I don’t fill them, and now I’m starting to get into fitness chances are they’ll get even smaller.

My advice for anyone considering surgery abroad (or anywhere really!)

  • RESEARCH. I cannot stress this enough. There are a lot of factors to consider! Make sure the company is legitimate. Many of them offer FREE consultations. Take full advantage of these and ask as many questions as you want. For example – will your surgery be performed under anesthesia or sedation? What type of implants are used? (You should research these as well and make sure they have no history of problems.) Because I’m going abroad I’m in constant email contact with David, my patient coordinator. No question is too silly to ask when it comes to surgery and if they try and make you feel silly you probably shouldn’t go with them.
  • Find out about your surgeon. Adam Kalecinski, who will be performing my surgery, is British registered and has worked in London. He speaks fluent English. Obviously this makes communication easier and there is less chance of confusion of what I want! He’s also done surgeries on people from Geordie Shore, BB and X factor and he’s been featured in British press.
  • Speak to other patients. This is important. Europe Surgery has a Facebook page where others can share their experiences, photos and satisfaction with surgery. Ask them everything – how professional the surgeons and nurses are, the cleanliness of the clinic, whether their opinions were listened to, etc. Of course at the end of it all the surgeon does know best, but YOU are the one that has to live with the results. You are paying for it and don’t be pressured into something you’re not 100% comfortable with.
  • MOST IMPORTANTLY DO NOT LET COST BE THE MAIN FACTOR IN YOUR DECISION. As it happens, I’m saving over £2000 by going with Europe Surgery instead of a UK one. However, I would not have gone ahead if I hadn’t been 100% happy with everything I’ve listed above. I’ve seen suspect companies offering boob jobs for as little as £1000. Also be wary of places offering “all inclusive” deals, with flights and hotels included. Europe Surgery charge for surgery only, you book and pay flights and accommodation separately. Bottom line – if it seems to good to be true, it probably is.

I get my new boobs on 25th January 2016. I’m sharing my experience because I want to be completely honest about having plastic surgery – I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of and anyone is welcome to message me if they’re considering this process themselves. I can’t wait! 😊

Happy birthday Kayleigh!

This is just a short post to say happy birthday for yeaterday to my best friend in the world 😊 with the help of some friends I managed to go down to Exmouth to surprise her for her birthday. She had no idea I would be there! We had such a good night out even though I just can’t hack it like I used to 😂 I’m back home now and I think I need to sleep for about a year! Well done to everyone who helped with the organizing, I had a great time and hope everyone else did!

Happy birthday Kayleigh, I love you and don’t ever change 😘 see you soon! Xxx

This week 😊

I’ve been having the best week despite the fact that the weather has sucked! I’m getting pretty excited at the gym because I’ve started to see my quad muscles developing. I haven’t really seen much noticeable difference up until last week and it’s really spurring me on. I have to admit I haven’t really been eating clean this week – on Tuesday I had drinks with someone I haven’t seen for a while which was fun but I ended up having chips 2 days in a row 🙈 then on Thursday I met up with my mum and we took Max to the farm and out for lunch. So I’ve not been too good with that side of things lately but I will get back on track soon!

Other stuff that’s been happening – my parents moved house last week for the last time. We went to see it the other day, it’s a downsize but since it’s only them and their dog it’s fine. Max and I are looking forward to going round when it’s all properly done up!

I had a letter the other day saying Max’s nursery hours were changing. Apparently the government funding has changed so he gets 15 hours not 12, so he’s going Monday-Friday for a 3 hour session every day. This actually works a bit better for me to get things done and I feel it’s a bit more consistent for him. I’ve just sent off an application to start some volunteer work for the next year until I go to uni so I’m really excited about that as well. And it’s getting closer to my birthday, can’t wait to start celebrating! 🙌

Coping with the “terrible twos”

I think we’re all guilty of being judgmental about how other people parent their children. I know when I was pregnant I’d look at other women whose toddlers were having tantrums in public and think “I’d never let my child behave like that.”

We all start out with the best intentions. I said I was going to breastfeed Max for a year. I could only do it for the first three months. I said I would never give him a dummy. I coped for a few weeks before the endless crying wore me down and gave him one for comfort. I said I wouldn’t co sleep because I didn’t want him to “get used” to it. It’s only been a couple of months since I finally got him in his own bed.

Everyone wants to be the perfect parent, but let’s be real – there is no such thing. I’m definitely discovering this over these past couple of months when I realised the “terrible twos” ISN’T a myth – it’s all too real!

We’re at that awkward stage where Max is becoming more independent, but there is still a lot he can’t do. He HATES sitting in the pushchair, he wants to walk everywhere but he doesn’t want to hold my hand. His current favourite phrase when I ask if he wants help is “No! Max do it!” Today I had to go and do a food shop and going down the toy aisle he wanted me to buy him a digger. When I said “no you’ve got lots of diggers” his reaction was to LIE DOWN ON THE FLOOR AND CRY.

Somebody said to me “boys are easy when they are teenagers but they’re harder work than girls when they’re toddlers.” I’m starting to think they’re right. And I will never again judge mothers when their children are having a meltdown in public!

Homemade cake (no, not mine)

I did something really naughty today.

I had cake.

I know. Normally I limit myself to one cheat meal a week (on Sundays) and I’ve probably ruined all the hard work I put in at the gym yesterday, but at the end of the day I’m human. We all have slip ups. And this slip up, as far as it goes, was a very good one 😋.

Hockley is one of my favourite areas in Nottingham city centre. For those who don’t know, it’s quite an “alternative” shopping area which isn’t usually my thing, but it’s such a melting pot of different people and I always find somewhere interesting to go. Yesterday I had promised Max some cake as a treat, so we visited Homemade Cafe in Hockley.

Cake is my favourite food in the whole world and there were so many on offer it was so hard to decide! Everything is displayed in the window so you can see it when you walk past, which I love. Max and I sat outside and had a chocolate brownie each and I had a caramel latte. The cakes were HUGE 😍 luckily I’m a sweet tooth so I didn’t struggle to finish it.

We had already had lunch but I had a quick look at the menu and I’m planning on eating there again soon. If anyone’s ever in Nottingham I’d definitely recommend this place.

Do I feel guilty about eating cake when it’s not my cheat day? Slightly. But it’s so hard to when it comes down to chocolate 😁

Oversharing on social media

Being very active on Facebook and twitter, oversharing is something I see quite a lot. As soon as a couple breaks up or friends have an argument they’re on social media bitching about each other for the world to see. I’m sure I’ve been guilty of oversharing myself in the past but I saw a meme the other day that said “keep your sex life, income and your next move private” which I honestly think is one of the best things I’ve read. One thing I won’t be talking about on this blog is relationships as I don’t think it’s fair to the other person to be scrutinised when they haven’t agreed to it. Only a few friends know who I’m seeing and I plan to keep it that way.

I read some things on social media and think “WHY would you tell the world that?” I think what it comes down to in the end is wanting attention. Everyone wants to be noticed but I think we should all try and limit ourselves as to what we share – I got asked the other day why I don’t put many pictures of my son on twitter. The reason for that is because he’s 2 years old and the world doesn’t need to know where he is every minute of the day.

My biggest – and I mean BIGGEST – pet hate is when separated parents start slagging each other off on social media. I fully understand that it’s a horrible situation and having the world think the other party is a perfect parent when they’re not might be frustrating. I certainly don’t always see eye to eye with Carl! But I always said from the minute we broke up that I’d never resort to social media bitching. I took this leaf out of my mum’s book – obviously there was no social media back then but I never heard her say a bad word about my dad around me (and believe me, she had way more reasons to slag him off than most people). Once it’s on social media, it’s there forever and it’s not fair on the children.

Nobody is perfect. We all get angry. But it gets dangerous when we start bitching online. We should all stop and think before we write that post – “will I regret saying that later?” I’m including myself in this 😆 social media is wonderful to keep people updated on everything that’s happening in our lives. But honestly, some things should be kept private.

August antics

Can’t believe it’s been 2 months since I started this blog! I love writing it and seeing that people are looking at it as well 😊.

So, it’s August which is one of my favourite months (obviously because it’s my birthday month but also because summer is my favourite season). I have a lot going on this month so I’ll probably be blogging quite a lot!

I’ve had a really good week this week. Finally managed to leg press 60kg (yeah OK I know that’s not a lot but when I started I struggled to do 40 😂 so I feel that’s an achievement!) Yesterday I took part in a focus group which I’d seen looking for participants on Facebook. We were asked for our opinions on estate agents, buying and selling houses etc. I’ve never actually bought or sold a house but I gave my input anyway! We got tea and coffee provided and at the end of it we all got paid £15. I’m gonna look out for more of these because it’s a nice way to get a little bit of extra cash and you get to give your opinions on a lot of things (which if you know me you know I love to do 😂).

Max was at his dad’s today so I thought I’d treat myself with my £15 😂 there’s a girl I follow on Instagram who always has really stunning, flawless make-up and I’d seen her wearing a really nice summery lip colour. I went into Mac and bought it today, it’s a lip liner called “lasting sensation” and it’s £12.50. It’s a beautiful colour and I can’t wait to try it out!

As I said I’ll be posting a fair bit over the next month. I’m reuniting with all my favourite people and I’m going to Exmouth, Bournemouth and London so there will be a lot to talk about. Until then 😆